4. Be kind to yourself. Speaking badly even about yourself is unethical.
הלכות שמירת הלשון It is permissible to speak negatively about a person: (1) to help the person, or (2) to help anyone victimized…
The first category of constructive purpose is to help the person about whom one is speaking. There is a tendency…
Before assuming that a person’s actions merit tochachah, reproof, one must be absolutely certain that he has, in fact, sinned.…
If a person whose actions may have involved a given transgression is known to commit that particular sin at least…
In the case of a habitual sinner who ignores a particular commandment altogether, one is to assume that even a…
A rebel due to temptation is someone who regularly submits to temptation in violating a specific mitzvah. While the prohibition…
Traditionally, Jewish communities have used social pressure in dealing with the publicly observant whose private behavior includes blatant violation of…
Based on the rules we have just studied, the rules of loshon hora vis-a-vis the totally non-observant Jew become clear.…
Even where it is permissible to speak negatively for a constructive purpose, one must avoid insincere flattery. It is forbidden…
Helping one’s fellow to improve his charcter also falls within the realm of toeles, constructive purpose. If an acquaintance requires…