If two members of the Tzibur (community) both have a Yahrtzeit during the coming week, and each wishes to receive Maftir on Shabbat before, a Goral (lottery) should be conducted to determine priority. This is true whether or not one is a Talmid Chochom or a wealthy man, who is capable of providing an alternate Zechus for the Niftar. All members of the Tzibur (community) have equal rights in this.
4. Be kind to yourself. Speaking badly even about yourself is unethical.
הלכות שמירת הלשון 