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"NO GOSSIP PLEASE"
Don’t Be Shy!!!
Just Tell Them!
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10 PRACTICAL GUIDELINES FOR POSITIVE SPEECH

1. Do not express damaging or derogatory information about someone that might cause him physical, psychological or financial harm, even if it is true and deserved.
2. Promote people’s well being. When in doubt, don’t speak out.
3. Humor is great, but make sure jokes aren’t at someone else’s expense.

4. Be kind to yourself. Speaking badly even about yourself is unethical.
5. Don’t listen to gossip. If you can’t change the direction of the conversation, it is advisable to leave.
6. If you inadvertently hear damaging information, you should believe that it is NOT true.
7. Always give others the benefit of the doubt and focus on the positive.
8. Words once spoken can’t be erased. Think before you speak, especially if you are angry, hurt or jealous.
9. Use kind and supportive words with your children and spouse whenever possible. Harsh words can cause irreparable harm as can speaking derogatorily to others about the ones you love most.
10. It is not only permitted, but required, to warn a person about potential harm – for example, that a potential business partner has a repeated record of embezzlement.

Halachot Lashon Horah

The Chofetz Chaim

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"NO GOSSIP PLEASE"
Don’t Be Shy!!!
Just Tell Them!
“NG PLEASE”

Click to view

10 PRACTICAL GUIDELINES FOR POSITIVE SPEECH

1. Do not express damaging or derogatory information about someone that might cause him physical, psychological or financial harm, even if it is true and deserved.
2. Promote people’s well being. When in doubt, don’t speak out.
3. Humor is great, but make sure jokes aren’t at someone else’s expense.

4. Be kind to yourself. Speaking badly even about yourself is unethical.
5. Don’t listen to gossip. If you can’t change the direction of the conversation, it is advisable to leave.
6. If you inadvertently hear damaging information, you should believe that it is NOT true.
7. Always give others the benefit of the doubt and focus on the positive.
8. Words once spoken can’t be erased. Think before you speak, especially if you are angry, hurt or jealous.
9. Use kind and supportive words with your children and spouse whenever possible. Harsh words can cause irreparable harm as can speaking derogatorily to others about the ones you love most.
10. It is not only permitted, but required, to warn a person about potential harm – for example, that a potential business partner has a repeated record of embezzlement.

Halachot Lashon Horah

The Chofetz Chaim

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Mitzvah #14b

Mitzvah #14b

February 21, 2007 Sammy Tamir

Mitzvah #14b
Sefer Ha’mitzvos Ha’Katzar (the concise book of mitzvos)

By the Chofetz Chaim

This book lists the Torah mitzvos that can be observed today

First Section – the Positive Commandments

14. It is a positive commandment to learn Torah and to teach it.

CONTINUED FROM LAST WEEK

There is a mitzvah on the father to learn with his son and his son comes before all others. Also, he is required to learn with his grandson as it says in Devarim (Deuteronomy) 4:9, “And you shall make them known to your children and your children’s children.” When a child begins to speak, his father should teach him and he should say with him the verse in Devarim (Deuteronomy) 33:4, “Moshe commanded the Torah for us.” A father has an obligation to pay a teacher for his son. A women is not obligated in learning Torah. Nevertheless, she should try to learn so that her daughters are not ignorant. Learning Torah is equal to all of the other mitzvos because learning leads to doing the mitzvos.

This obligation is at all times and in all places.